Even in the midst of terrible suffering, Jesus is thinking about others, not himself. He arranges that his mother – who surely must be suffering terribly herself – will be looked after by “the disciple whom he loved” (John). Even when we are suffering ourselves, do we make the effort to be considerate about other people who observe our suffering?
Jesus suffered physical thirst. Earlier in John (4: 14), Jesus told the Samaritan woman that he provides water so we are never thirsty again. But that is spiritual relief, not quenching our bodies.
Breaking the legs of people hanging on the cross can seem to be especially cruel. But that would hasten death, which would be a great relief.
The soldier poked Jesus’ side with a spear, and “blood and water” came out. This can look like a final insult. A commentary explains that this is “blood and serum,” which is clear medical evidence that someone is dead. Jesus didn’t just faint on the cross. He died for us.